Unhelpful Life Patterns

Unhelpful Life Patterns

Schema Therapy:

Running Out Of TimeSchemas are self-defeating life patterns or themes which we keep repeating and experiencing throughout our lives. Schema Therapy is a style of treatment which recognises the impact of our early life experiences on our way of being ‘here and now’. If basic emotional needs are not met in childhood or adolescence, schemas, coping styles, and modes – in effect, unhealthy life patterns – can result. Schema coping styles are our behavioural responses to the schemas in hopes of making things better, but in fact they very often wind up reinforcing the schema. Often times it is not the recognition of this per se, but rather the feeling that the same unhelpful patterns present themselves, that brings us to contemplate the need to make changes.

The goal of Schema Therapy is to help patients get their core emotional needs met. Key steps in accomplishing this involve learning how to:

  • Identify and stop using maladaptive coping styles and modes
  • Heal schemas and vulnerable modes, through getting your needs met in a healthy, sustainable manner
  • Incorporate reasonable limits for angry, impulsive or overcompensating states
  • Fight punitive, overly critical or demanding forces
  • Ultimately, to build healthy patterns which assist in minimising emotional upheavals.